The best course of action for any parent divorcing their spouse or living apart from the other biological parent is to get a custody order in New Jersey. A custody decision determines which parents have custody and which parents have physical custody. A formally approved parenting plan/custody agreement specifies exactly when each child will live with each parent. If you only have a support order and no custody order, you should read your support order carefully. There should be a clause stating that you and the other parent must inform each other or the court of their address. My best friend just filed for divorce and his wife is not happy, she will not open the door so she can be served, she keeps her children away from him and now his mother-in-law says he is going to pick up his children and take them to East Oregon, is there anything he can do, to stop her before the final divorce? We had an agreement for our children to live with him (Dad) for a year. The documents were prepared and certified by a lawyer. That was 3 years ago and he won`t let her come to my house as agreed. He also moved them from Louisiana to Georgia.
He moved in with his aunt and then got into an argument with her. My children now live with her and he stays elsewhere because she has a restraining order. Can I pick them up without a court or do I have to file an application for custody? If possible, I would like to have a legal lawyer for my children. They are 14, 13 and 10 years old. He has changed his number, my eldest`s phone is the only way to contact her. He tries to limit my contacts. I live in North Carolina what can I do to bring my children home I have custody of my three children and the mother has visits every weekend and a few days ago she was arrested for jumping in front of cars, I can legally keep her away from her if I feel it is not safe for my children to accompany her. The law states that judges have the custody based on what is in the “best interests of the child”. A support order does not necessarily mean you have access or custody. That`s why it`s so important to have a custody order. Joint custody does not mean that children have to spend exactly half the time with each parent.
Usually, children spend a little more time with 1 parent than with the other, as it is too difficult to divide the time exactly in half. If 1 parent has the children more than half the time, that parent is sometimes referred to as the “primary custodial parent.” If you deny the other parent access or visit their child and they take you to court, the court will not be compassionate to a parent who is trying to keep their child away from the other parent. In fact, you could lose your guard if you participate in such behavior. When you begin the custody process, you need to know that custody is not something that is gained or lost. Unless there has been some sort of abuse, neglect, or use of drugs and/or alcohol, each of you will share custody in some way. When sharing custody of your child, you and the other parent can either reach an agreement or the judge will do it for you in the form of an order. My husband has joint custody of his daughter and we have her 10 more days each month. Her mother is the primary caregiver, but from the day she was born, her mother lived with her parents and her parents were the ones who cared for her most of the time. Then, two years later, the mother decides to move into an apartment with a friend and the child was living with her, but I feel like the boyfriend abused his daughter because I saw bruises on her buttocks and one of them was about the size of my palm and was yellowed. I asked her if mom had beaten her and she said no, then I asked if her sister had beaten her (she sometimes looked at her when mom or boyfriend was working) and she said no, then I asked her if mom`s boyfriend had beaten her and she said yes. She was about 3 years old at the time. Then mom and boyfriend separate, leaving her behind to go back to live with her parents, and a month or two later, her parents tell her she needs to get a job and start taking care of herself and her child and give her two weeks.
When those two weeks arrived, the mother decided she would pack her bags and leave before they could tell her to leave. And now she hasn`t lived with her daughter for about 7 months, she visits her, but I don`t know how often. I think my question is: Is this abandonment? I don`t trust her mother to be primary school or to make big decisions for her child. She didn`t apply for health insurance for her for two years, nor did her grandparents, so she missed her exams by three and four years, so my husband and I finally decided that we would seek medical treatment for her and make an appointment for her four-year exam. She also didn`t try to get him to daycare, as she`s currently in kindergarten and will be in kindergarten next year, but her mom and grandparents never get her to preschool in time. So I`m worried that the mother and her family don`t care about their daughter at all because they don`t have the effort to get her to school on time or even to enroll her or get treatment.